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What’s My Why

 

What’s My Why?

Do you struggle with confidence? I can relate! When I was finally ready to follow my dream of doing my own thing, I found myself weighed down with doubt and overwhelm. I was stuck with where to start and how to move forward.

During my nine years as a private practice psychotherapist, I developed a model called Harvest Your Strengths. This approach has helped hundreds of my therapy clients heal, grow and thrive.

One day it occurred me, why not share what I’ve learned about using inner strengths with women who are stuck with how to make their dream a reality.

 

I believe that everything we need to thrive is rooted deeply within us. You can use your own inner resources and strengths to follow your dreams, build your confidence, increase your resilience, and become your best self.

 

Could you use some support? We all need guidance at one point or another

You can make your dreams happen despite the fear and doubt. You can develop tools to help you push through barriers and blocks. It’s definitely not easy– nothing worth doing is– but you can make it happen. It takes patience, conscious and consistent effort and, most importantly, self loving care. I’d love to help guide you on this journey.

 

If you’re ready to get laser focused on achieving your goals and dreams, let’s book some quality time together now. Warmly, Anita

 


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How to Face Fear, Imposter Syndrome and Do it Anyway!

 

Guest Post

 

Excerpts by Harvest Collective Alumni Members, Lauree Ostrofsky and Lanie Smith

 

Is “hard-ness” a sign you should stop what you’re doing? Does chronic self-doubt, also known as imposter syndrome, make you feel like you’re spinning in circles like a hamster on a wheel?

 

We’ve all been there! You’re about to embark on something new. But doing new things usually means facing fear, doubt and “imposter syndrome.” Here are excerpts from two Harvest Collective alumni members that offer great tips on how to face fear, imposter syndrome and do it anyway.

 

 

Doing it Anyway When You’re Scared by Lauree Ostrofsky

Have you ever been so scared of failing you were frozen in fear? Me too. More times than I expected would happen.

Each time I felt that way I would wonder if it was a sign I should stop. Admittedly, I look for the easy path, the choices that feel natural, and most of the time it’s helpful. So when this is hard  happens I usually run for the exit while looking for reasons why the hard-ness is a sign. Because everything can be a sign, right?

If I’m trying to get it right all the time, how will I ever really go for it? How will you?

No wonder it felt so hard, I was swimming through get it right or else mud. I was scared to try anything because the stakes were so high if I got it wrong.

 

Keep Doing It Anyway the next time you’d rather hide in fear.

Not knowing if you’ll get it right means you could fall or knock it out of the park. Either way you still get the love, respect, belonging from people you trust, including me. Time to jump off a jungle gym!

Read Lauree’s full post >>

 

 

Imposter Syndrome: Embrace the Terror Barrier by Lanie Smith

I’ve had a long history of discounting my strengths in order to magnify my shortcomings.  This only led to me feeling like a complete fraud, not only in art-making, but in most endeavors. Starting my own business not only brought all of my self-doubt to the surface, it became a true test of my commitment to stay the course even when I had no idea if I could really handle such responsibility.

Chronic self-doubt, also know as the imposter syndrome, kept me striving like a hamster on a wheel.  Luckily, I have learned to thank that voice of doubt kindly for trying to protect me from ridicule or harsh critique and proceed anyway.

 

The trick is to do it anyway. Do it scared, expect the fear, and keep your eye on the end goal.

 

Ignoring your fear may work temporarily, but with the actual acknowledgment of fear, you now gain the chance to go beyond rather than get stuck unknowingly. Once you have acknowledged your fear, it is important to show gratitude for that instinctual and protective part of you that is hard-wired to avoid pain, embarrassment, and danger.

It makes sense that we would not want to risk public ridicule as we are biologically set to remain a part of the pack rather than separated from the tribe, but we are no longer a tribal culture.  We can survive without the approval of everyone as long as those closest to us continue to support and encourage us.  More importantly, we don’t need to win the acceptance of the mass majority if we have our own commitment to stay true to ourselves first and foremost.

Read Lanie’s full post >> 

 

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About Lauree:

Lauree Ostrofsky, PCC, CPC is an author, speaker, coach and hugger with SimplyLeap.com. She helps women spend less time worrying about what everyone else thinks, and more time figuring out what they really want to do. Her books, “I’m scared & doing it anyway” and “SIMPLY LEAP,” are available on Amazon and Kindle, and in select stores nationwide.

 

 

 

About Lanie:

 Lanie Smith, MPS, ATR is a Registered Art Therapist and founder of Integrative Art Therapy in Phoenix, AZ as well as co-founder of Theheartmattersretreat.com. She specializes in anxiety, depression, burnout, compassion fatigue, vicarious trauma, disordered eating, body image, emotional discord, and relationship conflict. She also supervises and consults other therapists, leads trainings on the ethical use of art in therapy and offers workshops and retreats.

 

 


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How to Live with Doubt

 

 

by Anita Mambo Cohn, LCSW 

 

Enter doubt! You start to feel discouraged, you are uncertain or feel a lack of conviction. You want to get rid of these feelings for good and get kick doubt to the curb forever! Can you? My take on it is NO! But this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Keep reading…

Some might believe that you can rid yourself of doubt for good, but we are in fact creatures of emotion. I’m going to be real with you and tell you that, for most of us, doubt will not disappear forever – and that believing you’ll ever achieve 100% self-confidence is setting yourself up for disappointment. It’s not realistic, my dears to hope to live a life without doubt.

Doubt waxes and wanes, depending on our moods, our current situation, whether we’re being triggered by a past experience, whether we’re feeling challenged, or whether we are attempting something new. Even the most confident people in the world feel vulnerable and doubtful every now and then.

Having doubt is NORMAL! It makes sense for us to question and to be afraid of the unknown – it’s a way of protecting ourselves. So don’t beat yourself up for doubting. Instead, focus on taking care of yourself. Acknowledge it, feel it, cry it out, tell yourself it will be okay, stay connected to loved ones, and KEEP GOING.

 

The best way to challenge doubt is to stay in the game. It’s hard to do it, but it will make you stronger.

As we’ve discussed in previous posts, entering into unknown territory is what helps us grow, change and blossom into our best selves. Sometimes we won’t feel 100%, 75%, or even 25% assured, but that’s okay. Come to terms with this and accept that the outcome is unknown, give it a shot and, if it doesn’t go according to plan, roll with it.

 

Still need some convincing? Let’s recap what you’ll gain by doing new things. You will:

  • Learn
  • Get Stronger
  • Grow

 

Doubt is part of our journey- we need it. Questioning ourselves helps us grow, find our conviction, or change our course.

 

So why not try saying “bring it on” to doubt? Learn to live with it, and KEEP GOING. I’ll be there right alongside with you.

 

 


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